Life upon the wicked stage ain't ever what a girl supposes.
It's more.
The casts, the curtain calls, the exquisitely tailored costumes built just for you--everything about singing and dancing for a living has surpassed my expectations. And the applause ain't bad either.
Until.
One day your alarm wakes you up at 5:30 am. You glance over at your backpack that you, a 30-something adult, have packed with tap shoes, character shoes, ballet flats, dance clothes, hot rollers, hairspray, Russian Red MAC lipstick, non-dancing heels, a wrinkle-free audition dress, and a three-ring binder of sheet music. You peek out the window and see the snow starting to stick. You know that to secure an audition appointment, you'll have to arrive at the audition by 6:30 am, but you may not be let into the building until 8.
Once inside the building, you'll have to sit on the floor (if you're lucky) in a room packed with hundreds of women with similarly bulging backpacks, all fighting to use three electrical outlets and talking in overly bright voices about nothing. If you're unlucky, you may find yourself standing up, shoulder-to-shoulder, in a hallway with a frazzled building manager charging you with the impossible task of not being a fire hazard.
It's now 5:40 am. Is it worth going to all that trouble to compete with two hundred girls for two spots in a show that will give you five weeks of work at $600 per week?
I used to think it was worth the trouble. Though I would complain about auditions, I would enjoy the challenge and the excitement and the camaraderie of my true friends, girls that I went to happy hour with after auditions, and my "audition friends," girls whose names and resumes I knew but that I didn't see outside the audition holding room.
Auditioning is exhausting--but what's my other option? Working nine-to-five at a job where no one applauds for you? Where's the fun in that?
I know I need to move on. But it's not easy.
Someone recently described leaving the theater life as a grieving process. And thinking about shelving that part of my life really does feel like a loss. Living your dream is intoxicating. It's hard to walk away, to move on. But more often than not, I find myself wanting to put down that backpack.
I keep hoping that the thrills of the "real world," like getting a weekly paycheck and going to one place everyday instead of running to five auditions in eight hours, will outweigh the addictive high of booking a job. And slowly, I'm beginning to appreciate the little things--like walking out the door with nothing but a small purse. (My non-sagging shoulders love it, too.)
Can stability really ever win over excitement? It's hard to say. Will I ever really leave theater behind? That's hard to say, too.
But I do know this: the thought of leaving my tap shoes, character shoes, ballet flats, dance clothes, hot rollers, hairspray, Russian Red MAC lipstick, non-dancing heels, wrinkle-free audition dress, and three-ring binder of sheet music is getting more appealing by the day.
For now, I'm still watching the snow fall and considering my options.
Upon returning to my grandparents' house after my cousin's bridal shower a few weeks ago, I discovered that my grandfather was not in his armchair watching the Yankees or People's Court as I expected. Instead, he was in the second kitchen making sausage from scratch.
Note my mix of fascination and fear.
There are a couple of things I should probably explain about that statement.
Second Kitchen: All Italians have a second kitchen. It's a given. Just like quick tempers, last names with more vowels than necessary, a penchant for talking with our hands, and Catholicism. This literally means that there is an entire spare kitchen in the basement--kind of like the main kitchen's understudy--usually filled with appliances collected after various relatives' kitchen remodeling. Why do Italians have a second kitchen? I'm not totally positive, but here are my best guesses.
1. Italians take a great deal of pride in their homes, and a second kitchen ensures that the main kitchen will always look spotless in case neighbors stop by.
2. Marinara and olive oil are essential ingredients in the Italian diet. Both are extremely messy and splattery and stain-y during the cooking process.
3. Four burners are simply not enough. If Italians have four guests, they must make enough food for at least 25 starving men. Minimum.
Making Sausage From Scratch: I don't eat sausage, so I'm probably the worst person to describe this process, but here goes. To make sausage, you need pork butts from Canada. Why pork butts? I don't know. What's wrong with American pork butts? I don't know. What I do know is that you bring your butt or butts to the second kitchen and chop away, removing the fat. Mix in various spices, and then put the mixture into the grinder, which clamps onto the 1970s kitchen table that is a preparation surface only. No chairs surround it. After attaching a length of empty intestines to the grinder's spigot, turn the handle, mincing the meat and forcing it into the intestine. Eat immediately or freeze. But if you still want to eat sausage after reading this description, I'm impressed.
So of course when I saw the ridiculousness/wonderfulness/irony of this moment, I had to capture it. Enjoy!
I never would have thought those words would come out of my mouth. More often, Time Warner is referenced with phrases like, "highway robbery," "terrible service," "my DVR hates me," and/or, "if only we could get FIOS."
But yesterday, Time Warner came through in a major way. I heard horror stories about waiting seven hours in line to enter the free Game of Thrones exhibit, and I saw this amusing but terrifying video on the subject.
I wasn't expecting much when I strolled by the scene of the chaos ten minutes before the doors opened yesterday. As instructed, I brought my current Time Warner bill, and happily sidestepped the regular line in favor of the much shorter customer line. After my bill was validated and checked against my ID, the lovely people wranglers signed me up for a reserved visit for two at 6pm.
When I returned, the line had snaked its way down that looooong Fifth Avenue block and turned the corner at 6th Avenue. Feeling sort of guilty, I breezed past all the hopefuls, checked in with a people wrangler, and entered the Seven Kingdoms!
I'll let the photos below speak for themselves, but basically, the space was set up with museum-style tableaux of character groupings with costumes and props from the show, as well as bite-sized overviews of each family's turbulent history. Visitors could also play a very brief game of archery in the Battle of Blackwater Bay, and...drumroll, please!...get their pictures taken on the Iron Throne itself! I can't say it would have been worth hours of waiting, but sliding in on the Time Warner fast track was more than worthwhile!
Exterior calm
Interior chaos
Rob Stark's map
Info and family history
Ned's head
Jon Snow and the Wildlings
Some visitors felt the need to come in costume. Like the lady who is trying to get out of my shot. She was wearing sandals. In 35-degree weather. That's dedication.
Iron Throne photo shoot!
And I'll leave you with this uplifting saying by Arya....
As we all know, I love reality TV. Conveniently, my sister does, too. (Sorry to throw you under the
bus, sis! Or the Gorga motor home.) So I thought that centering the bridal shower thrown by her bridesmaids—as
opposed to the bridal shower thrown by her aunts—on Bravo’s Real Housewives series would put an
entertaining and unique spin on the event.
Invitations
I really wanted to establish
the theme from the get-go, and luckily, I have a dear friend who just happens
to be a genius designer. You can check her out at www.Zazzle.com/TheNoteBox!
Since I had already asked my friend to alter the Real Housewives of
Orange County logo to become “The Real Housewife of Ontario County,” I used the same design to create envelope seals through Vistaprint with awesome discounts
from RetailMeNot.
Setting
We
chose the second floor of an adorable ice cream parlor that overlooks the lake for a homey and contemporary feel. For subtle Housewives décor, my computer savvy cousin created some
one-of-a-kind tabletop images of my sister’s face in Real Housewives scenes using the FaceInHole website. Luckily, my sister had a plethora of expressive Facebook pictures to choose from. Here she is as Teresa right before her infamous table flip:
Music
Of
course, no Housewives themed party would be complete without some hot
Housewives singles! I found and downloaded the following:
“Revelation”
by Gretchen (OC)
“On
Display” by Melissa (NJ)
“I’m
Real” by Simon (NY)
“Close
to You” by Danielle (NJ)
“Can’t
Control” by Jo (OC)
“Tardy
for the Party” by Kim (ATL)
“Money
Can’t Buy You Class” and “Chic C’est la Vie” by Countess Luann (NY).
I
quietly had this playlist on a loop in the background, so that only the most dedicated
Housewives fans noticed—and loved!—it.
Snacks
The
managers of the ice cream parlor were phenomenal. They let us bring in our own
snacks and drinks as long as we purchased our entrees from them. Where did we
get ideas for snacks? Bethenny Frankel’s website!!! Unfortunately, the website
seems to have become less easily searchable, but I can vouch for her sangria and Mock-A-Mole (guacamole)!
Dessert
Since
I had just taken a Wilton cake decorating class at Michael’s (which I highly
recommend), I made cupcakes. Again, thanks to my cousin’s techno-handiwork, we put
together these Housewives cupcake picks. The Milania cupcakes are my favorite.
Sweet and sour at the same time.
Games
You can't throw a shower without some sort of game, right? I wanted to
make it accessible to those who didn’t watch the show and exciting for those
who did, so we developed a series of multiple choice questions about the series
and handed each guest a question to ask my sister, thus putting her in the hot seat instead of them.
Here are some of the questions we used:
What
did Teresa famously call Danielle while screaming at her? Hooker
Prostitution whore
Stripper
Which
housewife has Slade NOT dated?
Gretchen
Vickie
Jo
Lauri
What
did Bethenny name her daughter?
Beatrice
Bethenny
Bryn
If
she got a certain number of questions correct, she would win the grand prize—an
autographed bottle of Ramona Pinot Grigio! How did I come across the autograph,
you wonder? Well, I just happen to have an amazing friend who got it for me at
an official signing in NYC!
We
also played a more traditional shower game with questions about my sister’s life—a stylized version of True or False—and the game winner received a bottle
of Skinnygirl Margarita.
Gifts
For one of my gifts, I couldn’t resist doing a
play on the Bravo logo! I found the logo on Bravo’s website, altered the
lettering from "BRAVO" to my sister's future last name, reversed the image in Photoshop, printed it out on T-shirt transfer paper from Staples, and ironed it on to a cute sweatshirt that I
picked up at Target. That way, she had something to wear while getting her hair and makeup done on her wedding day. It came out great!
(It's actually easier than I just made it sound. I promise.)
Some
other guests really got into the Housewives spirit, giving my sister themed
baskets, like this Italian/cooking/Teresa Guidice basket that included her
cookbook.
Budget
If you've ever thrown any kind of party, you know that every little thing tends to add up to more than you probably want to spend. And although the Housewives have money to burn, I certainly do not. The bridesmaids and I were definitely working within a strict budget, and I learned that if you're willing to put in some time and imagination, you can create a shower that is affordable, personal, and unique!
It's a hard knock life for reality TV. People looo-ooo-ooove to
trash talk this allegedly trashy brand of TV, and they love to trash talk the
people who watch it.
But I’m here to admit to the world that I LOVE REALITY TV
AND I DON’T CARE WHO KNOWS IT.
In some ways, I feel as though I should be in hiding. Or in a
support group. Reality TV does seem like the ditzy cheerleader of daily
programming, and it’s as addictive as Doritos. But to counter those who oppose
my one true love, I would like to submit this highly technical and fact-based
statement:
Scripted TV
shows imitate natural dialogue and speech patterns—so why not skip the
middleman and listen to the real thing? Sure, there’s some prompting from
producers in reality TV, but there is also a surplus of spontaneity. TLC
producers can encourage Honey Boo Boo to say, “You’d betta redneckognize!” but
they could never have predicted the endearing moment in which she accidentally sneezed
two snot rockets out of her nose, covered her face with her hands, and sat
there in silence for a full 70 seconds, unsure what to do next. Oh Honey Boo
Boo, you made me love you.
3. It opens your world.
I knew that
there were women in the world who were connected to the mob, but I could never
have imagined what they did while their husbands were “away” until I saw Mob Wives. I know there are people who drink too much and spray tan and hook up with
juicehead guidos, but I could never have envisioned it until I saw Jersey Shore. I know there are people who sell antique pistols that have been family heirlooms since the American Revolution to finance their gambling habits, but I didn’t realize how sad and desperate they actually are until I saw Pawn Stars.
4. It helps you live vicariously through others.
I will
never live in a villa on the South of France, but when I watch House Hunters International, I can feel
the sun on my face as I enjoy wine and cheese on the veranda with an ex-pat
family of four who wanted a change of lifestyle so they moved to France, where the wife teaches yoga nearby, the husband works remotely in the home office that was one of their must-haves, and their two adorable little girls go to French school and learn to say cute things like, "Mamá!" and "Papá!"
5. It provides (often negative) examples of conflict
resolution.
Thanks to The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, I
now know that as tempting as it may be, you should neither tell people to STFU nor
send a cease and desist letter. Friends don't sue friends. (Except when they do.)
6. It gives you tons of supplemental reading material.
I don’t
love watching The Bachelor. (Sorry,
Chris Harrison!) But I do love reading show recaps on Vulture and EW and discussing them with my friends. If you
haven’t read them (and you should), they are lengthy, informative, and pithy
weekly show descriptions so detailed that they often require rereading to pick
up on all the hilarious allusions and inside jokes. In short, they are written
as if your super smart gay BFF is commenting on the show as you’re watching
together.
“And
a big welcome back to you, Sean Lowe! You're looking as buff and rosy-hued as
ever. I suppose a few months relaxing at home in Dallas—or, even better, in
your niece's giant pink princess playhouse emporium—would soothe anyone's
broken heart. (And of course, never underestimate the healing power of schadenfreude.) Though Sean's pecs, lats,
delts, and biceps have clearly lost the will to cover themselves after getting
dumped by Emily, the newly-minted Bachelor refuses to let this slow down his
pre-‘journey’ training regimen. ‘I know it's going to be physically exhausting,’
says Shirted Confessional Sean, while Sweaty Shirtless Sean towels off after a
set of bicep curls. 'I might go through that same heartache that I experienced with Emily.'”
7. Schadenfreude
Sometimes
it really does feel good to laugh at someone else’s misfortune. When The
Situation headbutts a wall while drunk on Jersey Shore, or Tierra cries her black mascara into a KISS-like frenzy on on The Bachelor, or Kourtney or
Khloe or Kim start a kollection of klothing at Kmart (a store they would’ve
previously never set an orange toe in) on Keeping Up with the Kardashians, it takes you out of your own world. It
makes you forget that you’re collecting unemployment even though you have a
master’s degree.
8. You can learn new skills.
As a result
of watching Sweet Genius, Income Property,
Hoarders, and Shark Tank, I
am now a chef, an interior designer/handyman, a professional organizer, and an
entrepreneur. Just try me.
9. It reassures you that you can handle life’s difficulties.
Regardless
of circumstances, many reality shows have feel-good endings that demonstrate a
dynamic change in the central character…or they show us how dumb you look when
you make the same boneheaded mistakes over and over again. If, like Deena from Jersey Shore, you have a few too many
cocktails and get thrown in the drunk tank, your parents will come to your
rescue; although they may yell at you, they will always love you. Just look at the lesson she learned, "I was just trying to dance on the street. Clearly you can't do that,
and I actually got in trouble for not using sidewalks. ... That was my
charge. So now I know: Don't dance in the street." Happy Meatball Day, Deena!
10. It instills a can-do attitude.
You’re obviously more intelligent
than anyone on these programs, so reality TV makes you feel that if those morons can
star in their own shows and become rich and famous, so can you. It’s the
American way. So relax, drink it in, and thank your lucky DVRs that you live in a country where anyone--and I mean anyone--can become a star.
As many of you probably already know, I belong to an '80s dance company that performed in the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade yesterday. How did this happen? Well, the group--the Spangles Dance Company--made a Christmas video last year that we posted on Facebook. That video was seen by a friend of a friend of our director, and that friend of a friend just happens to be a Macy's executive! Long story short, the Spangles were asked to perform a 90-second routine in the parade.
We had about four rehearsals to learn and perfect our routine, and then we had a 25-minute camera blocking rehearsal on Tuesday night at 10:55pm on location in front of Macy's. Well, we were supposed to have a 25-minute camera blocking rehearsal. We got all dolled up and waited for our turn after the Broadway musicals (Bring It On, Annie, and Nice Work If You Can Get It) rehearsed, but somewhere along the line, the schedule got thrown off, and since the NYPD had a strict 11:30pm deadline for the street to open back up to traffic, we had zero minutes in the actual space and zero assistance with blocking. Luckily, we're used to being thrown out of places by the NYPD (Grand Central Station and the Post Office are just two examples), so we made the best of it and tried to figure out our spacing on the sidewalk. On the bright side, we did get to wait in a small holding room with a man that is no stranger to parades--Ferris Bueller himself!
But let's get to the good stuff. Here's what happened on Thanksgiving Day:
4:20am Wake up call!
4:50am Got in a cab and headed to the Hilton Garden Inn on 35th Street. Our fearless leaders, Deb and Ted Spangles booked a conference room so we could create our signature MAC look (#sponsorusplease) and our giant 80s hair.
5:00am Arrived at the hotel. There were already spectators claiming front row spots behind the parade barricades.
6:00am Since the conference room didn't have mirrors, we went to the nearby hotel gym to primp. There were two Asian ladies on the treadmills. I'm sure they were thrilled to see us there. I mean, I always want to inhale hairspray when I work out. I had actually started getting my hair in the groove by putting in sponge curlers the night before at 5pm. I tried to remember the way my hairdresser set my hair when I got a spiral perm and use the curlers in that same pattern. I was delighted to see that when teased, my sponge curls turned into a giant frizzy hair halo. Truly thrilling.
6:20am We put on our bedazzled outfits. Sure that it would be freezing outside, I put on as many layers as possible. So when all was said and done, I was wearing: one pair of dance tights, one pair of shiny dance tights, knee socks, legwarmers, dance trunks, two tank tops, t-shirt, hoodie, and fingerless gloves.
6:45am We left the hotel and hopped into two vans that took us to 81st and Columbus, where we were supposed to meet our Macy's handler (meaning the woman who was supposed to shepherd us from place to place), but she was having subway trouble, so we all filed into a nearby Starbucks to wait for her. We took pictures to pass the time.
7:30am The very understanding Starbucks people allowed us to wait inside, not eating or drinking, just taking up room and probably frightening customers away. Thank you, Starbucks! Hilary was still lost in subway-land, so we decided to head to our waiting point, which was the Museum of Natural History. We filled past giant balloons and shivering marching bands as we walked inside to use the museum bathrooms. (I hear that the marching bands have to meet in Central Park and use port-o-potties. Poor things.) The bathroom line was loooooooong since we were waiting near a 200-girl dance group. I thought I would be cold, but they were wearing unitards that exposed their backs and their ankles. Poor, poor things.
8:15am Hilary finally appeared! We primped and practiced and added more and more layers of hairspray to our hair, nervously waiting for the parade to begin. And freezing. We all had hand warmers, so our hands were warm, but that was about all that was warm.
The ladies along with Deb and Ted
9:00am The parade began. We could hear random busts of cheering, but it was hard to tell what was happening.
9:15am A gentleman led us to the barricade so we could easily feed into the parade when our turn came. From there, we saw a number of floats: a fun looking group (Jimmy Fallon and the Roots), a tired old man (Don McLean), a bunch of teenyboppers who were making kissy faces to anyone and everyone (The Wanted), and a fella wearing the tightest red pants I've ever seen (Neon Trees).
9:45am Finally. FINALLY, THEY LED US INTO THE PARADE!!! Eek! We were all completely freaking out, of course. An announcer of some sort said something to the effect of, "And now, hailing from Queens, is a high-energy dance company that pays tribute to the 80s. Spangles Dance Company, join the parade!" And we were off. We started off down the street, alternately waving, walking, and dancing to songs ("I Wanna Dance With Somebody," "Jesse's Girl," and "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun") that were played through a giant Macy's star speaker that was being driven down the street in front of us. And also in front of us were two strangers dressed as majorettes who were carrying a very official banner with our name on it!
10:00am We reached 64th Street and I had suddenly gone from freezing to sweating. I absolutely couldn't believe it! I had tried so hard to prepare for the cold that I couldn't believe I was warm. Hilary, our handler, suddenly became our holder of hand warmers as we each got too hot to keep them in our gloves. In addition to the people lining the streets and packed onto bleachers, there were thousands of people looking down from above--in windows, on balconies, on rooftops, and more.
10:15am We reached Columbus Circle. Making that turn from Central Park West to 59th Street was the most exciting part of the parade route for me. I'm not sure why. Maybe because it's so picturesque and open. We also got warmer and collectively chose to unzip our hoodies.
10:30am We made another turn and danced down Sixth Avenue. The sheer volume of people lining the streets was completely overwhelming. They were giving so much energy to us that we really wanted to give a lot of energy back to them, especially since they had been waiting for hours. As a result, we were really starting to drag. We had been awake and anxious for six hours, and we had been walking/waving/dancing for 2 miles. And we still had our televised routine to perform. We all consciously tried to conserve our energy and cool down.
10:45am We reached 37th Street, where we were instructed to stop dancing and just prepare for our performance. We were obviously freaking out. And reviewing our steps. And adding more hairspray. And reassuring each other that we all looked great for our close-ups.
10:55-ish am We were finally on the Macy's star. The camera people directed us to take our places on stage during a commercial break. We had no idea how long it would be, so we anxiously held our first position while waiting for the music to start. It took so long to begin that my right foot began to cramp.
Holding during the commercial
But it finally started. Even though the steps were a blur, I remember being really conscious of trying to enjoy everything as it happened. And since it was a random, one-of-a-kind, surreal experience, enjoying it was easier to do than I expected. The music came on, as I expected, but what I didn't expect was hearing the voices of Matt Lauer and Savannah Guthrie narrating our dance as we were doing it.
10:57am And just as quickly as it started, our moment in the sun was over. We finished our 90-second routine and continued marching and waving down 34th Street--all the way to the giant 8th Avenue Post Office, where we took our official group photo. On the way, we passed the Hammerstein Ballroom, where we successfully auditioned for America's Got Talent. And we had already been kicked off the Post Office steps while filming "Get Outta My Dreams and Into My Car" so it seemed like life had come full circle for the Spangles Dance Company.
Here's the unofficial picture
What's next for us? I'm not sure. We got a bunch of entertaining tweets, hundreds of people "liked" our Facebook page, several girls asked for audition info, and one person even wants us to perform at her Christmas party. I'm not sure where we'll be, but I can't wait to body roll into our future!
